I work for the Armed Forces. Next month, I will be going on leave. My wife and I will be taking a two-week holiday. Is there any medicine or injection that can help us avoid pregnancy for one or two months? We both don’t want to use a condom while having sex during this period. Kindly advise.
She should take Primolut N tablets (one tablet, thrice a day), three to four days before her expected period and continue it till required. I suggest she should not take it for more than 14 days. You may have sex without a condom. Incidentally, sex is possible during menstruation as well.
I am 19 years old. I think I am suffering from premature ejaculation. Whenever I masturbate, I ejaculate within half a minute or so. Please help me out with a possible remedy.
While masturbating, think. When you are far from the feeling of wanting to ejaculate, stop. After you have regained control, start again. You can also squeeze the base of the penis' head to help you. After 12 to15 times, you can complete the act. It will take you about four months to improve. Start a four-week course of NEO tabs (Charak), one tablet twice a day.
My husband and I are happily married. We have two children, aged 10 and eight years. Earlier, we were largely unaware about the pleasures of sex. However, 11 years of marriage has changed that. Today, we feel highly aroused all the time but lack the satisfaction. We need to have sex more than once, sometimes even three times so as to feel adequately satisfied. Is it due to some health problem? What do we do to ensure that we feel satisfied? Please help.
Indulge in more foreplay. Fantasise, have a bath together, go for a massage, etc. You may also take a holiday together.
I am 29 years old. I will be getting married after a month. A month ago, I underwent circumcision owing to a tight foreskin. The problem is that after the operation, my penis has become quite sensitive and I experience pain when I rub the nerve that ends at the base of the head. Also, there are other areas of the head which are quite sensitive. The doctor claims that the operation was successful. However, I am extremely worried as my marriage is only a month away. How do I reduce the pain and sensitivity of the penis? Are there any precautions that I must take after my marriage? Also, my fiancée does not know about this operation. Please help.
You were wise to have undergone the operation. Fifteen minutes before bedtime, apply Xylocaine gel 2%. This will reduce the pain and excitement. That should make you more confident.
What is the best way to increase penis' size? Also, how can I increase its stiffness? Please help.
You have to live with what you have. I am sure it will be enough provided you know the art of love. If the penis is hard enough to be able to penetrate into the vagina, it is all you need.
I am a 30-year-old man. I will be getting married soon. Is first-time sex painful for men as well? I am a bit scared. Please help me out.
If you have a tight foreskin, pain is possible. However, with good lubrication, it shouldn't be a problem.
I am 22 years old. My husband is 24. We got married three months ago. During sex, he ejaculates too soon. He doesn't last beyond six to seven strokes. As a result, I am left dissatisfied. Is that a problem? If yes, what's the solution? I am scared to confess to him that I am not satisfied with our sex life. Kindly help.
Marriage is an equal partnership between a man and a woman. In a quiet moment, tell him that you are unable to achieve on orgasm although you enjoy what he does. To get an orgasm, both should indulge in foreplay before he inserts. A woman can reach her first orgasm via finger stimulation and get another one during intercourse.
Can a woman be satisfied only via foreplay? What if one refrains from penetrative sex? How does one confirm that a woman has achieved orgasm? Does orgasm equals satisfaction for a woman?
Yes. The clitoris is situated externally and is the organ responsible for brining about an orgasm in a woman. Unlike the male who needs to rest after one episode, a woman can get many orgasms during the same act. The orgasm is similar to what a male experiences except there is no ejaculation in the process.
I am a 30-year-old man. I started masturbating at the age of 17. I am getting married in the next three months and I feel I suffer from premature ejaculation. Now I ejaculate in less than a minute or so. What solution do you recommend?
It is best you visit a sexologist who can teach you the stop and start technique and prescribe some medicines to help you to last longer. You could also Google and check treatments suggested.
I am a 24-year-old unmarried man. I have never had sex with anybody. I watch porn and masturbate regularly. Whenever I see a girl I get turned on and thoughts of having sex with her cloud my mind. For this reason, I have been unable to concentrate on my job. Can you help solve this issue?
Find a partner and when settled, marry. Meanwhile continue fantasising and masturbating. Give more respect to your job.
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I am a 35-year-old married man. I like to perform oral sex on my wife. However, she does not allow me sometimes because she thinks it is unhygienic. Kindly let us know if this act is appropriate and if she is right, what is the way out?
Oral sex is a common practice. Laboratory studies have found it clean and that it doesn't cause any problems. Suggest you buck up your technique.
I am a 26-year-old married woman. My husband likes to perform oral sex on my anal area. Are there any chances of him inviting any health problem? Please advise if it is okay to continue doing this act.
The are chances of him catching an infection from the germs and viruses of the intestinal tract, so preferably, he must avoid.
I am a 27-year-old married man. My wife and I eagerly want to have a baby. The problem is that after I ejaculate the sperms flow out of the vagina. I am not sure why it’s happening and how I can stop this. At other times I get too excited and ejaculate early. Please advise.
Relax, only a few drops of the strongest sperms race towards the ovum. These drops will contain millions of sperms and the remaining flows out. So wait and do it again next morning.
What are the chances of contracting AIDS or other STDs while having protected intercourse and oral sex with a sex worker?
Maybe 70/30. The condom can slip or tear. Oral sex must be done with a condom too and it is often not done. Even if the chance was just one per cent, it is entirely up to you to take the risk.
I am 27 years old. I had unprotected sex with my partner but he did not ejaculate inside me. Before the intercourse he had given me a tablet to consume and told me that it will keep pregnancy at bay. It was the 14th day of my period. Are there any chances of me getting pregnant? After how many days of getting the period is it safe to have unprotected sex?
It is alright to trust anybody especially these days when sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies are common. Hopefully the tablet he gave you was an emergency contraceptive pill which may help to avert a pregnancy. Wait for your period. In the future, insist on a condom. There is no day which is totally safe to have unprotected sex. ‘Condom or no sex’ should be your motto.
Oral sex is a common practice. Laboratory studies have found it clean and that it doesn't cause any problems. Suggest you buck up your technique.
I am a 26-year-old married woman. My husband likes to perform oral sex on my anal area. Are there any chances of him inviting any health problem? Please advise if it is okay to continue doing this act.
The are chances of him catching an infection from the germs and viruses of the intestinal tract, so preferably, he must avoid.
I am a 27-year-old married man. My wife and I eagerly want to have a baby. The problem is that after I ejaculate the sperms flow out of the vagina. I am not sure why it’s happening and how I can stop this. At other times I get too excited and ejaculate early. Please advise.
Relax, only a few drops of the strongest sperms race towards the ovum. These drops will contain millions of sperms and the remaining flows out. So wait and do it again next morning.
What are the chances of contracting AIDS or other STDs while having protected intercourse and oral sex with a sex worker?
Maybe 70/30. The condom can slip or tear. Oral sex must be done with a condom too and it is often not done. Even if the chance was just one per cent, it is entirely up to you to take the risk.
I am 27 years old. I had unprotected sex with my partner but he did not ejaculate inside me. Before the intercourse he had given me a tablet to consume and told me that it will keep pregnancy at bay. It was the 14th day of my period. Are there any chances of me getting pregnant? After how many days of getting the period is it safe to have unprotected sex?
It is alright to trust anybody especially these days when sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies are common. Hopefully the tablet he gave you was an emergency contraceptive pill which may help to avert a pregnancy. Wait for your period. In the future, insist on a condom. There is no day which is totally safe to have unprotected sex. ‘Condom or no sex’ should be your motto.
I want to know if it is possible for a girl to get pregnant if she has had sex seven days before or after her menstrual cycle?
Not likely, before but after these days, yes.
I am a 28-year-old man and my girlfriend is 25. We have been enjoying a healthy and protected sex life since a couple of months. However, recently when we were mutually masturbating, I touched the tip of her vagina with my fingers smeared with seminal fluids. Her period had just ended a day prior to this episode. Can there be a chance of pregnancy? If yes, what steps should be taken to avoid it? Please help.
If it was the eighth day, there is virtually no chance for conception. A universal advice wash before you touch.
I recently joined a gym to build my muscles and stamina. I masturbate five to six times a day. How many times a day is it ok to do so?
Why join a gym when you are masturbating all day? Do you have time to do anything else? You have developed a habit which will not be healthy in the long run. I suggest you masturbate only when you are sexually aroused, and not necessarily daily.
My wife is 20 days pregnant. We just confirmed it earlier this week. When can we resume having intercourse? Is it ok if we continue with foreplay till we can start having intercourse. Is it okay for her to orgasm?
Her gynecologist should be advising you. For three months don't give her an orgasm. She can satisfy you with intercourse between the thighs and with foreplay. From the fourth month onwards you can try penetrating her from behind but make sure you talk to her doctor before hand.
I am a 22-year-old unmarried woman. The size of my breasts is very small and my partner is always pointing it out to me while we are having sex. I feel really embarrassed about it. Is there any way I can increase my size without having surgery?
Her gynecologist should be advising you. For three months don't give her an orgasm. She can satisfy you with intercourse between the thighs and with foreplay. From the fourth month onwards you can try penetrating her from behind but make sure you talk to her doctor before hand.
I am a 22-year-old unmarried woman. The size of my breasts is very small and my partner is always pointing it out to me while we are having sex. I feel really embarrassed about it. Is there any way I can increase my size without having surgery?
It's not possible without surgery, and won't advise it. I suggest you give him the 'take it or leave it' option. Stop being embarrassed by it. Their function is to provide milk to the baby which will be done.