It's amazing that the divorce rate is increasing day by day. It's actually pretty sad too. People are so quick to just exit out of a relationship without even trying. But here's a theory - how about learning to keep things happy before problems arise, learning small everyday things that can keep little stresses away? Isn't that a novel idea? I thought so, which is why I created this list of items that have helped me personally. I'm not saying that I have the fairytale relationship but after 13 years I have learned that the small yet simple gestures seem work well.
1. Communicate-not just about your feelings- but about your day. Share stories with one another about what is going on at work or in a friend's life; share what you saw on the news or in a magazine with your significant other if you found it interesting. Discussing regular day to day occurrences is just as important as staying in tune with each others' feelings. It keeps you in tune with your spouse on a daily basis.
2. Take showers together- it doesn't have to be sexual! My husband and I have done this from the beginning of our relationship, did it start out sexual? Probably. But over time it became an intimate thing, just extra time that we can spend together catching up on the day- it just happens that we are naked and in the shower!
3. Go to the park and swing, slide or just play-it's a young and fun thing to do. It keeps you playful and is a great way to relieve stress. Real life can get so with overwhelming with work, kids, bills, laundry, chores- sometimes a play break is what's needed to alleviate all of that, even if it's only for half an hour.
4. Take walks-morning walks are a great way to start your day, not a morning person? Take an evening walk. Getting fresh air and exercise together is good for your health and the health of your relationship. Walking relieves stress, keeps you fit and allows quality time to be spent together.
5. Date nights-put everything on hold for an hour or two and plan on just doing something alone with your spouse. It can be dinner, a walk, the mall, whatever, just make the time for just the two of you with no one else around, catch up on your day or week or just joke around and have fun. But making time for just the two of you is important.
6. Play video games or wrestle-a healthy dose of competition is always good and it can be an entertaining way to not only have fun but a great stress buster as well. Just don't take it too seriously and be a sore loser because that would defeat the whole purpose.
7. Have sex-even if you don't want to, you need to keep the sexual chemistry between you and your significant other alive. Being intimate and showing your love for one another is a significant part of your union.
8. Hold hands- it may seem insignificant; however, this small but intimate gesture shows that you care about each other even when you are doing something simple like walking from the car to the grocery store.
9. Give praise-telling your significant other that they are great at something can be a huge ego boost. It shows that you care and that you pay attention and like the way he/she does something. It's always nice to know that your spouse appreciates the things you do and the way you do them.
10. Be thankful-a simple thank you for taking the trash out, taking the kids to school, fixing that faucet or simply being a great spouse goes a long way. Letting someone know that you are thankful for what they do means a lot.
11. Have time apart-couples don't need to spend 24/7 together. Spending time away with the girls or the guys makes you appreciate one another. Have your own lives apart from one another. Schedule dinners or mini vacations if you can to keep up with friends.
12. Don't always nag-if you start nagging too much you will create resentment. Reminding someone of something a few times is one thing but becoming obnoxious about it will produce hostility and that's not the outcome that you are looking for. Take a different approach, ask nicely, explain what you need done and by when. The nicer you are the better.
13. Share advice-you never know when great, unexpected advice can come about. My husband and I work in two totally different professions yet we manage to swap advice on work all the time. The advice does not have to be work related, it can be about the kids, the chores, money management, it doesn't matter, be open to sharing different ideas.
14. Pick and choose your battles-Over the years I have learned that life is short and arguments are lame. Now I only get mad at things that I feel are truly important. I've learned to pick and choose my battles. Everyone will have that one battle that they choose to fight, just choose it carefully. Just think "is this really worth getting mad about? Will I still be mad about it this tomorrow morning? Will I even remember this next week?" Most of the time the answer is no. I've learned that this approach makes for a healthier and happier relationship and definitely causes less stress.
5 dating charms that won't fail
It doesn't take a Ferrari to hook the best looking girl in the room. Just follow this incantation to raise your sexiness quotient immeasurably.
TIP 1: Spin a tale
To involve a girl in conversation, you need to learn how to tell a story. Even if it is about that one time you ran away from home. Remember all the mythology and even graphic novels you read. They all have common patterns and structure. Spin your story around this structure. The good guy must always win, albeit after a few failures. Weave in conflict, disappointment, tension.Make your school adventures a killer tale and women will listen in rapt attention.
TIP 2: Mix arrogance with humour
Two most noticeable things in a guy are humour and confidence. Combine them both for a winning formula, and push the envelop to cocky. The trick is saying audaciously funny things, but within a limit. This also makes you unpredictable. Think of James Bond and all the smart-ass things he gets away with. But watch the signs so you don’t overdo it.
TIP 3: Tease
Teasing is a concealed way of checking if she’s interested. But this is not third grade teasing, so don’t say mean things in a nice way. It has to be fun. And build up on it, but in an unpredictable way. The more you raise her anticipation, the more hooked she gets.
TIP 4: Anticipate
Learn to read non-verbal demands and situations. Read the dynamics of the people in the room before striking a conversation to use it to your advantage. This way, you won’t be stuck in the corner with the wife of the suspicious and vengeful boss. Once you are able to read to people in this way, you’ll know who is approachable and what to say to them.
TIP 5: Know the game
Know how a relationship progresses (from attraction to sex to commitment), how much time to spend at each level and how to progress to the next. Know what the indicators of each level and who is in charge. This way, you’ll know what the woman expects from you and whether you are ready to give it to her. It also helps avoid unnecessary heart burn.
TIP 1: Spin a tale
To involve a girl in conversation, you need to learn how to tell a story. Even if it is about that one time you ran away from home. Remember all the mythology and even graphic novels you read. They all have common patterns and structure. Spin your story around this structure. The good guy must always win, albeit after a few failures. Weave in conflict, disappointment, tension.Make your school adventures a killer tale and women will listen in rapt attention.
TIP 2: Mix arrogance with humour
Two most noticeable things in a guy are humour and confidence. Combine them both for a winning formula, and push the envelop to cocky. The trick is saying audaciously funny things, but within a limit. This also makes you unpredictable. Think of James Bond and all the smart-ass things he gets away with. But watch the signs so you don’t overdo it.
TIP 3: Tease
Teasing is a concealed way of checking if she’s interested. But this is not third grade teasing, so don’t say mean things in a nice way. It has to be fun. And build up on it, but in an unpredictable way. The more you raise her anticipation, the more hooked she gets.
TIP 4: Anticipate
Learn to read non-verbal demands and situations. Read the dynamics of the people in the room before striking a conversation to use it to your advantage. This way, you won’t be stuck in the corner with the wife of the suspicious and vengeful boss. Once you are able to read to people in this way, you’ll know who is approachable and what to say to them.
TIP 5: Know the game
Know how a relationship progresses (from attraction to sex to commitment), how much time to spend at each level and how to progress to the next. Know what the indicators of each level and who is in charge. This way, you’ll know what the woman expects from you and whether you are ready to give it to her. It also helps avoid unnecessary heart burn.
Opening move
You’re getting married and among your list of reception, baraat and phera preparations, there’s gearing up for your honeymoon. Or perhaps you and your partner are ready to take your relationship to the next level. Don’t let anxiety dampen the day. Just follow these tips and precautions for an unforgettable time.
Get on the same page
Couples counselling will demystify sex. “There’s a vast difference between male and female sexuality,” says Minnu Bhonsle, consulting psycho-therapist and relationships counsellor at Heart-to-Heart counselling, “and hence each one’s expectations are different. Male sexuality is more body oriented, while female sexuality is emotion oriented.” Such a session helps set realistic expectations and establish attitudes towards sexual intercourse.
You could do this on your own by just talking about it or creating a multiple choice quiz for your partner about the things you like. It’s only fair that you take the quiz too.
Look to please
It’s a given that you look your best, but you don’t need to be aggressively sexual. A clean set of boxers or a matching cotton set works as good as a lacy garter. If you’re a couple with a sense of fun, carry it to the bedroom. Be a sexy secretary or wear men’s briefs. But leave the kinky stuff for later, you don’t want to scare your partner off.
And don’t forget to wax, shave, shampoo and perfume yourself. In fact, take a day off for vanity’s sake. Let the make-up you wear be the water-proof, smudge-proof type that doesn’t make you look like the Joker the morning after.
Don’t buy the hype
Hindi movies have made much money from riding on the suhaag raat cliché. Likewise, an extensive education by pornography will leave a real encounter disappointing. Give yourself a little more time for exploration.
Get a place that ensures privacy and relaxation. You aren’t going to score a sixer in a house filled with extended family; and if you plan to do it in a rent-by-the-hour Madh island shack, you’ll be more traumatised than aroused. Self-consciousness and pressure can make the process painful for women or cause erection problems in men. Book yourself a beach-side vacation or plan this over a weekend getaway.
If you rent your own apartment, pack your roomie off for the weekend and give the bai the day off.
Talk protection
Fear of pregnancy or STDs will play damper with the mood, so make sure you have a pack of condoms close at hand. Contraceptive pills may not agree with some women, are less effective and do not protect against STDs. If you’ve never used a condom before, practise putting it on so that you don’t fumble on D-day and lose your erection, or put it on too soon.
Take minimum assistance
Don’t let your enthusiasm carry you away into lubricants and wine. “It may be a common romantic notion to relax over a glass of wine,” says Bhonsle, “but studies show that wine makes it hard for a man to have an erection or retain it.” Similarly, don’t rely on artificial lubricants unless as a medical necessity. “If a woman is properly aroused, she will be wet enough to make penetration relatively painless,” says Bhonsle, so prolong the foreplay or use your fingers to dilate her until she’s ready.
Learn the moves
Do your biology homework to know what’s where. Start by giving each other a massage and move on from there. Notice what makes him/her groan harder, but don’t keep repeating the moves; switch between them to keep things interesting. Assume some responsibility for your climax. Guide your partner if you know what you like. If one of you has a greater sexual appetite, make it your responsibility to keep your partner interested.
Tune into the fun
Besides taking your relationship to the next level, sex is primarily supposed to be a lot of fun. Laugh off embarrassments, don’t dwell on them. Read erotic literature aloud to each other, play strip poker, take baths together... It’s not just about the wham, bam.
Get on the same page
Couples counselling will demystify sex. “There’s a vast difference between male and female sexuality,” says Minnu Bhonsle, consulting psycho-therapist and relationships counsellor at Heart-to-Heart counselling, “and hence each one’s expectations are different. Male sexuality is more body oriented, while female sexuality is emotion oriented.” Such a session helps set realistic expectations and establish attitudes towards sexual intercourse.
You could do this on your own by just talking about it or creating a multiple choice quiz for your partner about the things you like. It’s only fair that you take the quiz too.
Look to please
It’s a given that you look your best, but you don’t need to be aggressively sexual. A clean set of boxers or a matching cotton set works as good as a lacy garter. If you’re a couple with a sense of fun, carry it to the bedroom. Be a sexy secretary or wear men’s briefs. But leave the kinky stuff for later, you don’t want to scare your partner off.
And don’t forget to wax, shave, shampoo and perfume yourself. In fact, take a day off for vanity’s sake. Let the make-up you wear be the water-proof, smudge-proof type that doesn’t make you look like the Joker the morning after.
Don’t buy the hype
Hindi movies have made much money from riding on the suhaag raat cliché. Likewise, an extensive education by pornography will leave a real encounter disappointing. Give yourself a little more time for exploration.
Get a place that ensures privacy and relaxation. You aren’t going to score a sixer in a house filled with extended family; and if you plan to do it in a rent-by-the-hour Madh island shack, you’ll be more traumatised than aroused. Self-consciousness and pressure can make the process painful for women or cause erection problems in men. Book yourself a beach-side vacation or plan this over a weekend getaway.
If you rent your own apartment, pack your roomie off for the weekend and give the bai the day off.
Talk protection
Fear of pregnancy or STDs will play damper with the mood, so make sure you have a pack of condoms close at hand. Contraceptive pills may not agree with some women, are less effective and do not protect against STDs. If you’ve never used a condom before, practise putting it on so that you don’t fumble on D-day and lose your erection, or put it on too soon.
Take minimum assistance
Don’t let your enthusiasm carry you away into lubricants and wine. “It may be a common romantic notion to relax over a glass of wine,” says Bhonsle, “but studies show that wine makes it hard for a man to have an erection or retain it.” Similarly, don’t rely on artificial lubricants unless as a medical necessity. “If a woman is properly aroused, she will be wet enough to make penetration relatively painless,” says Bhonsle, so prolong the foreplay or use your fingers to dilate her until she’s ready.
Learn the moves
Do your biology homework to know what’s where. Start by giving each other a massage and move on from there. Notice what makes him/her groan harder, but don’t keep repeating the moves; switch between them to keep things interesting. Assume some responsibility for your climax. Guide your partner if you know what you like. If one of you has a greater sexual appetite, make it your responsibility to keep your partner interested.
Tune into the fun
Besides taking your relationship to the next level, sex is primarily supposed to be a lot of fun. Laugh off embarrassments, don’t dwell on them. Read erotic literature aloud to each other, play strip poker, take baths together... It’s not just about the wham, bam.
Questions 06
I am a 27-year-old man. I got married six months ago. My problem is that during intercourse, I ejaculate within five minutes. Therefore I am not able to enjoy it much. Is there any exercise or method that can improve my sex time?
You may be pleased to know that five minutes is well within the world average. So you are doing well. Continue foreplay till your partner reaches an orgasm. Then start intercourse. After entering, stop and begin stroking after you gain control. Try the woman-on-top position. Tell your wife that if you finish before she reaches her second orgasm, she should continue by rubbing against your body or by using her or your fingers. Put her happiness before yours, and you will be satisfied.
I am a 25-year-old man and got married recently. I am unable to enjoy my sex life because my penis cannot enter my wife’s vagina. It is tightly closed. Please suggest a solution.
Take your wife to a gynaecologist. Try inserting a finger into her and then slowly, insert more fingers. if she is scared of the pain, ask her to apply a small quantity of Xylocaine 2% gel in and around the vagina. Wait for 20 minutes and then wipe it off. She will not get any pain. For reassurance, she can insert her finger and see.
My girlfriend keeps messaging other boys. I have asked her several times whether she truly loves me and she says she is deeply in love with me. But when other guys ask her out — guys who have even proposed to her — for a movie or dinner, she goes out without hesitation. She keeps making new friends through Orkut and Facebook and even tells me about these boyfriends. Initially, I didn’t have a problem, but nowadays she messages them in front of me. I have a job and she is freshly out of college. She is coaxing me to marry her soon, but I am confused. I am not mean-minded but I want to know whether she is cheating on me. I don’t want to accuse her without substantial evidence. Kindly help. How can I?
A relationship must start and finish with trust, so if you have doubts, don’t marry her. Speak to her frankly about your dislikes and what makes you jealous — till marriage, she is entitled to go with her friends and do as she pleases.
I am a 25-year-old woman and I got married a few months ago. Recently my husband tried to penetrate but his penis did not enter my vagina. We used Durex Gel, after which he managed to enter for a while but withdrew immediately. Why does he have trouble getting and staying in? Would there be a problem in my vagina? Should I see a gynaecologist?
Possibly the position is wrong. Try sitting or lying on a table or use the kitchen platform. Your husband should stand between your thighs if his penis is not as erect as required. Ask him to take a three-week course of Vigomax Forte by Charak, one tablet twice a day.
I am a 36-year-old single man. Six months ago I had sex with a housewife. Then, I made as many as 220 strokes in the 40 minutes of our intercourse. Today, I could only reach 180 in the same time. Please reply. I am worried.
Do take part in the Commonwealth games since you seem like an athlete. My advice is to enjoy the act and stop counting. Do give a thought to whether you are satisfying your partner or not.
I am 39 years old and I am a bachelor. I have not had the experience of sex ever. I was detected with diabetes a few months ago. My problem is that during the night, I get a good erection. But during the day, even a beautiful girl standing close to me or touching me doesn’t get me an erection. What is the remedy for this? Kindly suggest some medicine for this problem.
Get your diabetes under control. After 27 years, an erection by merely thinking rarely occurs. Get married; your concerns might just disappear.
I am a bisexual man. I have both male and female partners. My male partner is now asking me to have sex with him. This is my first time. Please tell me what precautions I should take. Should I indulge in oral sex? Is it risky? Apart from a condom what should I use for protection? Should I use any cream? Will there be complications in the future if we have sex once a week?
Look to your future. What do you want your sexual orientation to be? Do not sit on a fence and decide which way you want to go. For oral sex, insist on a condom. You may want to opt for a flavoured one. For anal sex, again a condom is necessary alongwith plenty of lubricant. Use K-Y Jelly (not Vaseline). There is always a risk of complications if you do not trust your partner.
I am 24 years old and my girlfriend is 22. After intercourse, she had two I-pills. However, she still hasn’t got her periods. What do we do? How can she get her periods? Are there any tests that can be done? We don’t like to go to a doctor and my girlfriend is not ready to visit the hospital.
Take her to a gynecologist immediately. Tests will be done to ascertain if she is pregnant. If the tests are positive, medical termination with tablets is possible, but only within 49 days, counting from the first day of her period.
My wife is one month pregnant. In this period, we have had sex only twice. Is it safe for the baby? What position can we use?
Start with the side-to-side position or you may approach from the rear with her facing the wall.
A week ago, I had unprotected sex with my partner. After intercourse, she popped an I-pill. Today, again we indulged in unprotected sex. Can she pop an I-pill once again? Will there be any side-effects?
You are being very rash and uncaring by not using protection. Yes, of course she can get pregnant. I-pill is only an emergency contraceptive and such indiscriminate use has many side-effects.
You may be pleased to know that five minutes is well within the world average. So you are doing well. Continue foreplay till your partner reaches an orgasm. Then start intercourse. After entering, stop and begin stroking after you gain control. Try the woman-on-top position. Tell your wife that if you finish before she reaches her second orgasm, she should continue by rubbing against your body or by using her or your fingers. Put her happiness before yours, and you will be satisfied.
I am a 25-year-old man and got married recently. I am unable to enjoy my sex life because my penis cannot enter my wife’s vagina. It is tightly closed. Please suggest a solution.
Take your wife to a gynaecologist. Try inserting a finger into her and then slowly, insert more fingers. if she is scared of the pain, ask her to apply a small quantity of Xylocaine 2% gel in and around the vagina. Wait for 20 minutes and then wipe it off. She will not get any pain. For reassurance, she can insert her finger and see.
My girlfriend keeps messaging other boys. I have asked her several times whether she truly loves me and she says she is deeply in love with me. But when other guys ask her out — guys who have even proposed to her — for a movie or dinner, she goes out without hesitation. She keeps making new friends through Orkut and Facebook and even tells me about these boyfriends. Initially, I didn’t have a problem, but nowadays she messages them in front of me. I have a job and she is freshly out of college. She is coaxing me to marry her soon, but I am confused. I am not mean-minded but I want to know whether she is cheating on me. I don’t want to accuse her without substantial evidence. Kindly help. How can I?
A relationship must start and finish with trust, so if you have doubts, don’t marry her. Speak to her frankly about your dislikes and what makes you jealous — till marriage, she is entitled to go with her friends and do as she pleases.
I am a 25-year-old woman and I got married a few months ago. Recently my husband tried to penetrate but his penis did not enter my vagina. We used Durex Gel, after which he managed to enter for a while but withdrew immediately. Why does he have trouble getting and staying in? Would there be a problem in my vagina? Should I see a gynaecologist?
Possibly the position is wrong. Try sitting or lying on a table or use the kitchen platform. Your husband should stand between your thighs if his penis is not as erect as required. Ask him to take a three-week course of Vigomax Forte by Charak, one tablet twice a day.
I am a 36-year-old single man. Six months ago I had sex with a housewife. Then, I made as many as 220 strokes in the 40 minutes of our intercourse. Today, I could only reach 180 in the same time. Please reply. I am worried.
Do take part in the Commonwealth games since you seem like an athlete. My advice is to enjoy the act and stop counting. Do give a thought to whether you are satisfying your partner or not.
I am 39 years old and I am a bachelor. I have not had the experience of sex ever. I was detected with diabetes a few months ago. My problem is that during the night, I get a good erection. But during the day, even a beautiful girl standing close to me or touching me doesn’t get me an erection. What is the remedy for this? Kindly suggest some medicine for this problem.
Get your diabetes under control. After 27 years, an erection by merely thinking rarely occurs. Get married; your concerns might just disappear.
I am a bisexual man. I have both male and female partners. My male partner is now asking me to have sex with him. This is my first time. Please tell me what precautions I should take. Should I indulge in oral sex? Is it risky? Apart from a condom what should I use for protection? Should I use any cream? Will there be complications in the future if we have sex once a week?
Look to your future. What do you want your sexual orientation to be? Do not sit on a fence and decide which way you want to go. For oral sex, insist on a condom. You may want to opt for a flavoured one. For anal sex, again a condom is necessary alongwith plenty of lubricant. Use K-Y Jelly (not Vaseline). There is always a risk of complications if you do not trust your partner.
I am 24 years old and my girlfriend is 22. After intercourse, she had two I-pills. However, she still hasn’t got her periods. What do we do? How can she get her periods? Are there any tests that can be done? We don’t like to go to a doctor and my girlfriend is not ready to visit the hospital.
Take her to a gynecologist immediately. Tests will be done to ascertain if she is pregnant. If the tests are positive, medical termination with tablets is possible, but only within 49 days, counting from the first day of her period.
My wife is one month pregnant. In this period, we have had sex only twice. Is it safe for the baby? What position can we use?
Start with the side-to-side position or you may approach from the rear with her facing the wall.
A week ago, I had unprotected sex with my partner. After intercourse, she popped an I-pill. Today, again we indulged in unprotected sex. Can she pop an I-pill once again? Will there be any side-effects?
You are being very rash and uncaring by not using protection. Yes, of course she can get pregnant. I-pill is only an emergency contraceptive and such indiscriminate use has many side-effects.
Questions 05
I am 29 years old and my husband is 30. We got married three years ago. Our marriage and sex life are normal. A few months ago, I noticed that he watches porn on his laptop. He does that either when working late night or when I am away for work. When I confronted him, he got extremely defensive and said that it’s absolutely normal for all men to view porn. In fact, he was angry with me for invading his privacy. Now, things are fine, but I still find him viewing porn. Is this behaviour indeed normal? Do I have a reason to worry?
So long as the porn makes him a good lover and he doesn’t get addicted to it, why worry? In fact, you can ask him to share some of the material with you.
My husband and I enjoy an active sex life. We indulge in sex almost seven to eight times a week and experiment very often. Many times, during sex, we urinate inside each other. We find this act very enjoyable. After intercourse, we wash ourselves thoroughly with soap to maintain hygiene. Is it safe to indulge in such an act? Will this affect our fertility in any way?
It’s a rather unusual practice. Passing urine with an erection and that too inside the vagina is not possible. Urine is usually sterile but infection can lurk around the corner which can affect chances of conception.
Men ejaculate during intercourse which indicates their orgasm and satisfaction. How does one know whether a woman has achieved orgasm or not?
You can only observe. Do not ask. For all you know, she might just fake it to please you. She will go through the same emotions. The only difference being that she won’t ejaculate.
While urinating, a crystal clear, transparent, gel-like liquid came out of my penis. It is definitely not semen. What is it? I am scared.
It is your pre-cum which is a natural lubricant that appears when a person is excited.
Which is the less painful way to break a hymen — by penis or by finger? If I wear a condom, will the sperms not pass into the vagina? A friend told me that my partner will not be satisfied if I wear one. What type of condom should I use?
It is best to break the hymen with your finger during foreplay, when she is excited. A condom prevents sperms from entering the vagina and causing pregnancy. Satisfaction comes from good foreplay — a condom can decrease the impulse to ejaculate, so you can go on longer.
I’m a 24-year-old married man. My wife is not satisfied with the size of my penis — when resting, it is 2.5 inches; 3.5 inches when erect. Is there any medicine can take to increase the size? I can spend around two to three thousand rupees on this.
No medicine is required to increase the size. Yours is within normal proportions. Try intercourse with her legs on your shoulder.
I am 30 years old. My wife is never excited by sex. She is a very cool kind of woman. What should I do to enjoy my sex life better?
Surely she is no dummy. Try and find out the reason for her attitude. Are you to blame because you are not indulging in enough foreplay or not giving her an orgasm?
We got married five months back, but it’s a long distance relationship. Out of excitement, we had unprotected sex on June 18, 23, 26 and 29. Each time, I took an emergency contraceptive pill afterwards. My periods were due on June 18th and I bled from June 18 to 25. And then again from July 2 to 7.Once again, we had unprotected sex on July 25 and 26. But this time I took the pill 36 hours later, counting from the 25th. I had my periods from August 2 to 5. Finally, we had unprotected sex on August 11. I have tried explaining to my husband the consequences of the risk we have taken, which he understands, but blames it all on our long-distance relationship. Our queries are as follows: 1) Are the periods I experienced in June, July and August normal, or just the temporary effect of the emergency pills? 2) Can I become pregnant in spite of the bleeding? 3) Do I need to take a pregnancy test? If yes, then should I consider my periods accidental bleeding?4) Within how many months is abortion legal? 5) Within how many weeks can one opt for an oral abortion? In future, we’ll use protection.
An emergency pill tries to prevent conception and it can disturb periods if used frequently. Abortion is legal till week 20 of pregnancy, but after week 12, the procedure becomes difficult. Medical termination is possible up to 49 days from the last period. Thank the almighty that light has dawned upon you both finally.
You have recommended Climax spray for a sensitive penis’ head. I have heard that such sprays damage the penis. Is this true? If not, then is it safe to use such sprays for long time?
It does not cause any such damage. Any medicine is to be used till the problem is under control. So use it off and on.
I am 26 years old and my fiancée is 23. She gets her periods on the first day of every month. We will be getting married next month on the 9th. 1) Can we have unprotected sex on the first night? Which days are considered safe? 2) Is it safe to indulge in oral sex? 3) Do oral contraceptive pills have any side-effects? If yes, which ones have minimal side-effects?
1) There’s a minor risk. The first and last seven days of the period cycle are considered virtually safe. 2) It is okay to have oral sex. 3) A visit to the gynaecologist will clear all your doubts. The doctor will explain everything about low dosage hormonal pills. They are safe and effective and rarely have side effects.
So long as the porn makes him a good lover and he doesn’t get addicted to it, why worry? In fact, you can ask him to share some of the material with you.
My husband and I enjoy an active sex life. We indulge in sex almost seven to eight times a week and experiment very often. Many times, during sex, we urinate inside each other. We find this act very enjoyable. After intercourse, we wash ourselves thoroughly with soap to maintain hygiene. Is it safe to indulge in such an act? Will this affect our fertility in any way?
It’s a rather unusual practice. Passing urine with an erection and that too inside the vagina is not possible. Urine is usually sterile but infection can lurk around the corner which can affect chances of conception.
Men ejaculate during intercourse which indicates their orgasm and satisfaction. How does one know whether a woman has achieved orgasm or not?
You can only observe. Do not ask. For all you know, she might just fake it to please you. She will go through the same emotions. The only difference being that she won’t ejaculate.
While urinating, a crystal clear, transparent, gel-like liquid came out of my penis. It is definitely not semen. What is it? I am scared.
It is your pre-cum which is a natural lubricant that appears when a person is excited.
Which is the less painful way to break a hymen — by penis or by finger? If I wear a condom, will the sperms not pass into the vagina? A friend told me that my partner will not be satisfied if I wear one. What type of condom should I use?
It is best to break the hymen with your finger during foreplay, when she is excited. A condom prevents sperms from entering the vagina and causing pregnancy. Satisfaction comes from good foreplay — a condom can decrease the impulse to ejaculate, so you can go on longer.
I’m a 24-year-old married man. My wife is not satisfied with the size of my penis — when resting, it is 2.5 inches; 3.5 inches when erect. Is there any medicine can take to increase the size? I can spend around two to three thousand rupees on this.
No medicine is required to increase the size. Yours is within normal proportions. Try intercourse with her legs on your shoulder.
I am 30 years old. My wife is never excited by sex. She is a very cool kind of woman. What should I do to enjoy my sex life better?
Surely she is no dummy. Try and find out the reason for her attitude. Are you to blame because you are not indulging in enough foreplay or not giving her an orgasm?
We got married five months back, but it’s a long distance relationship. Out of excitement, we had unprotected sex on June 18, 23, 26 and 29. Each time, I took an emergency contraceptive pill afterwards. My periods were due on June 18th and I bled from June 18 to 25. And then again from July 2 to 7.Once again, we had unprotected sex on July 25 and 26. But this time I took the pill 36 hours later, counting from the 25th. I had my periods from August 2 to 5. Finally, we had unprotected sex on August 11. I have tried explaining to my husband the consequences of the risk we have taken, which he understands, but blames it all on our long-distance relationship. Our queries are as follows: 1) Are the periods I experienced in June, July and August normal, or just the temporary effect of the emergency pills? 2) Can I become pregnant in spite of the bleeding? 3) Do I need to take a pregnancy test? If yes, then should I consider my periods accidental bleeding?4) Within how many months is abortion legal? 5) Within how many weeks can one opt for an oral abortion? In future, we’ll use protection.
An emergency pill tries to prevent conception and it can disturb periods if used frequently. Abortion is legal till week 20 of pregnancy, but after week 12, the procedure becomes difficult. Medical termination is possible up to 49 days from the last period. Thank the almighty that light has dawned upon you both finally.
You have recommended Climax spray for a sensitive penis’ head. I have heard that such sprays damage the penis. Is this true? If not, then is it safe to use such sprays for long time?
It does not cause any such damage. Any medicine is to be used till the problem is under control. So use it off and on.
I am 26 years old and my fiancée is 23. She gets her periods on the first day of every month. We will be getting married next month on the 9th. 1) Can we have unprotected sex on the first night? Which days are considered safe? 2) Is it safe to indulge in oral sex? 3) Do oral contraceptive pills have any side-effects? If yes, which ones have minimal side-effects?
1) There’s a minor risk. The first and last seven days of the period cycle are considered virtually safe. 2) It is okay to have oral sex. 3) A visit to the gynaecologist will clear all your doubts. The doctor will explain everything about low dosage hormonal pills. They are safe and effective and rarely have side effects.