I am 39 years old and my wife is 36. We enjoy a good sex life. But my wife wants it limited to once a week. She does not get aroused easily. I pass more than average time in foreplay but she seems uninterested. I have to initiate. Is there any medicine to get her excited? Is it possible that she has nutrition deficiency or imbalance in the hormone level?Check all possibilities including some behaviour of yours that upsets her. The best medicine is a caring husband who organises a romantic holiday and leaves his laptop behind.
I am 27 years old and got married 10 months ago. Now, my wife and I are planning a baby. After ejaculation, my sperm doesn't enter into her vagina. She says all the sperm keeps coming out slowly until the following morning and her innerwear is wet. I have tried in various positions but the result is the same. Are there any chances of her getting pregnant? Please help.
Only the best swim forward in to the womb and the strongest (in millions) surround the egg in the tube. The weak just give up and exit from the vagina.
At what age should girls start masturbating? What are the various ways to do it?
There is no rule on when to start. Ideally it should be around puberty, at the age of 12 or 13. Work out ways of stimulating your pleasure centres such as the mouth, nipples and the clitoris, hidden between the inner folds of the vulva, situated between the thighs. Some even like to probe the vaginal area with their finger or a cylindrical object but be careful. This might split the hymen.
I am a 29-year-old married man. Whenever I have sex with my wife she yells out in pain and I am unable to penetrate. I have tried using many lubricants and also tried oral sex before I penetrate but she can’t take it. I haven't even had anal sex until now. I tried inserting my fingers but she says it hurts too much. What should I do?
Anal sex will be even more painful. Best thing to do would be to take her to a gynaecologist. Also try applying a small amount of Xylocaine 2% gel 20 minutes before bed time and rub it off.
I am a 29-year-old married man. Whenever I have sex with my wife she yells out in pain and I am unable to penetrate. I have tried using many lubricants and also tried oral sex before I penetrate but she can’t take it. I haven't even had anal sex until now. I tried inserting my fingers but she says it hurts too much. What should I do?
Anal sex will be even more painful. Best thing to do would be to take her to a gynaecologist. Also try applying a small amount of Xylocaine 2% gel 20 minutes before bed time and rub it off.
I am 25 years old and have a five-month-old baby. When is it okay for us to have sex and how do I avoid pregnancy? Is Copper-T safe? Also, I had a cesarean operation. How long before I can ride a two wheeler?
You can have sex as and when you please and use a Copper-T as a contraceptive. It’s known to be very effective. If inserted, rest for a day. Your gynecologist can decide whether it will suit you and suggest options if you need them. You can ride a two- wheeler safely as long as you are comfortable.
I am a 28-year-old man getting married soon. I have always had a problem of premature ejaculation. My penis seems very sensitive all the time and as soon as it comes in contact with a female organ, I ejaculate. I have tried all your suggestions and nothing seems to work. What should I do?
I am a 28-year-old man getting married soon. I have always had a problem of premature ejaculation. My penis seems very sensitive all the time and as soon as it comes in contact with a female organ, I ejaculate. I have tried all your suggestions and nothing seems to work. What should I do?
Try a local anesthetic spray like Climax or apply Xylocaine 2% over the glans 15 minutes before intercourse and wash off. Try better self control.
I am a 21-year-old unmarried man. My foreskin is very tight and it fully covers my penis during erections as well. You have suggested a circumcision for others with similar problems. However, I have never faced a problem while masturbating. What should I do? Would you recommend it to me?
If you cannot slip your foreskin till the back of the head of the penis then you have a tight foreskin. It may not hurt during masturbation but when you have intercourse, it might hurt you. At times the skin also splits and bleeds. Additionally, the area under the foreskin secretes a waxy substance which needs to be cleaned regularly. Visit the surgical department of any hospital and take the opinion of a surgeon. He will tell you if you need a circumcision or not. The procedure is simple and safe and you'll be fine after a day's rest.
I am a 21-year-old unmarried man. My foreskin is very tight and it fully covers my penis during erections as well. You have suggested a circumcision for others with similar problems. However, I have never faced a problem while masturbating. What should I do? Would you recommend it to me?
If you cannot slip your foreskin till the back of the head of the penis then you have a tight foreskin. It may not hurt during masturbation but when you have intercourse, it might hurt you. At times the skin also splits and bleeds. Additionally, the area under the foreskin secretes a waxy substance which needs to be cleaned regularly. Visit the surgical department of any hospital and take the opinion of a surgeon. He will tell you if you need a circumcision or not. The procedure is simple and safe and you'll be fine after a day's rest.
I have read in your columns that women do not ejaculate during orgasms but I have seen porn videos where they ejaculate a thick white liquid. What is that?
During an orgasm, the vagina contracts and relaxes the extra lubricating fluid. This occurs when a women is sexually aroused gets expelled during the orgasm.
During an orgasm, the vagina contracts and relaxes the extra lubricating fluid. This occurs when a women is sexually aroused gets expelled during the orgasm.
My wife delivered a baby five months back. Recently, we had sex. Will this be harmful to me, her or our baby? After delivery of the baby, how many months of gap should be there for an intercourse?
Usually it is possible to start within 6-8 weeks. There is no harm to the baby or you. If her periods have resumed, ensure you use a condom. Both of you must talk to her gynaecologist.
Usually it is possible to start within 6-8 weeks. There is no harm to the baby or you. If her periods have resumed, ensure you use a condom. Both of you must talk to her gynaecologist.
I am 34 years old and my wife is 27. We enjoy a healthy sex life, but of late, she wants us to have anal sex. We tried but she complains that it hurts. I have a big penis and she wants to try it more often. Is there a way to widen the anal opening or is there some cream to reduce her pain?
Try to dissuade her. If it is a must, then you should wear a long-lasting condom, apply lubricating fluid and insert it gently into her, in a convenient doggy-style position.