Quotes 1

1.How do you decide whom to marry?
You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.  


2. You should learn the art of love-making for that’s what matters most to a woman.

3. What matters most in a relationship is commitment.

4. Sharing a laugh together is truly a great way of staying connected.

5. A study says the seventh month in the relationship is when couples stop impressing each other and reveal their real self.
The UK survey of about 1000 adults says the ‘seven-month slouch’ is when couples stop trying hard to impress each other and start revealing hitherto hidden bad habits — from breaking wind and nose picking in front of their partners, to being unkempt, and not minding their Ps and Qs. The reason? By this period they are so comfortable with eachother, they don’t find the need to put any special effort as they used to in the initial part of the relationship.

Questions 25

I am a 24-year-old man with a very good love life. I want to take our relationship to the next level and have protected sex. I do not want to use condom. Can she take any tablet that avoids pregnancy post-intercourse? If yes, which tablet? Will it have any side-effects?Is it only “I” you think of? Why not discuss this with your partner and then make up your mind? She can start on regular low-dose hormone pills. She will have to take them daily for 21 days, break for five days and restart. One such pill is Ovral L.


My penis is small and medium in breadth. While having sex with my partner I don't get an erection for a long time. I ejaculate within 1 to 1.5 mins.  My partner and I are not satisfied. So please suggest a solution. For a longer duration erection twice I have tried 100 gms of sugar. Is that harmful?Sugar is not going to help you. Indulge in more foreplay after entry. Do not start stroking. Just rest inside, until you get better control, then start again. Buy xylocaine gel 2%, apply a little over the head of the penis, wait 10 minutes and then wipe it off you. Your erection should thus last longer.


Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy and what position is safe for female partner?In the majority of cases it is safe, but an OK from your doctor must be taken as there are some cases where it is a strict no-no. Usually for the first three months, it is advised that she does not get an orgasm, which, by the contractions of the uterus, may dislodge the newly implanted foetus. Sex, up to the end of the eight month, is permitted by most doctors. The sitting position or approach from the rear (spoon position) is recommended.


I had sex with my girlfriend without using a condom. She was supposed to get her periods that week. So I ejaculated inside her. I have read that it is safe to have sex in the first and the last seven days of the cycle. Will she get pregnant?
Accidents occur when you least expect it. No time is cent per cent safe. However, the first and last seven days are virtually safe. It's best to use a condom always


I am 25 years old. I am going with my wife for our honeymoon. Which cream should my wife apply while having sex for the first time?
If you indulge in adequate foreplay, you will not require any lubrication. If necessary, use her saliva, or yours. In case she experiences pain, then use xylocaine gel 2%. Apply a small quantity in the vaginal opening and around it. Wait for 15 minutes then wash off the excess cream. She will not experience any pain. It is better to split the hymen by inserting your finger deep into her vagina during foreplay. 

Can you recommend  a safe contraceptive, which a couple can use on a daily basis? My partner and I do not want to use a condom. Can I make my partner ejaculate by stimulating her clitoris? A condom is ready at any time of the year. It is the safest and most effective. If you wish that your wife should use contraceptive, then both of you should visit a gynaecologist.


I am a 39-year-old bachelor. I recently discovered that I am a diabetic; I am also a virgin. My problem is that at night, I get good erections and feel like having sex. But during the day, even if I am approached by a beautiful woman, I don't get an erection. I don't know what to do about it. Please help.Get your diabetes under control. After 27 years, getting an erection just by thinking about it rarely occurs. Get married and all your concerns will be put to rest.


I am a 48-year-old woman. I get an orgasm in just two or three strokes. I want to enjoy sex for a longer time. So can you please suggest me some cream or spray to apply on my vagina or some other way by which I can enjoy foreplay and sex for a longer time?
You are a lucky person. As a woman you can get multiple orgasms. Just rest a few minutes and embark for the second orgasm. The Ripley’s Believe it or not has mentioned of a woman having fifty orgasms in one episode


I am a recently married man and my wife and I don’t wish to have a baby for atleast another year. I am using condoms as I have heard that oral pills may cause problem while conceiving in the future. Please tell us what are safe days and how to can we count them so that we enjoy unprotected sex during those days. Does oral sex cause infection? Also, some times there is no lubrication while intercourse what should we use instead?Oral sex does not cause infection with a known partner. For lubrication, use yours or her saliva and increase foreplay. The first seven days of her 28th day regular period and the last seven days are virtually safe. Since you’re married you can take the minor risk. Count from the first day (when streaks of mucus and blood are seen).  Three days are heavy and other days are available. Ensure that you both clean yourselves with soap and water.


I am a 24-year-old girl, about to be married soon. I would like some advice on contraceptive pills that don’t have side effects can be taken daily, as my fiancee and I don’t want kids for another year. We know condoms are not entirely safe, so is there any other way to avoid pregnancy. Also, my private area smells even after taking bath daily. Do you have any cream, which can avoid this foul smell as I think it might affect my future married life? What are the safe days to have sex?
It will help you and your fiancée a lot if you visited a gynecologist. She/ he can explain the various methods of contraception available. Your personal problem can be attended to. The condom is virtually safe on the risky days, for example the 10th to the 15th day a barrier tablet such as TODAY that can be inserted as double protection.

Questions 24

My wife is three months pregnant. Our gynaecologist had asked us to not have sex up to three months. But in the last 15 days, we had three sexual encounters. We also performed oral sex on each other before intercourse. Was it safe though we were advised against it? Which is the best position to have sex in these times and till which month? Is oral sex safe?All these questions could have been answered by the gynaecologist. Till the pregnancy is well-anchored (around three months), sex is not advised as an abortion can take place. After three months, you definitely cannot give oral sex to her as there is a chance of air bubbles entering the blood. The woman-on-top sitting position or approaching from the rear in a spoon position is advised. You can have intercourse till the end of the eight month.


My partner and I have got a really weird problem. We have  a lot of sex but neither of us gets an orgasm during intercourse. I don’t ejaculate during intercourse, when other men usually do it in the first five minutes. I keep stroking for 20 or 30 minutes sometimes. When I get tired, I ask my girlfriend to perform oral sex on me. Then I ejaculate. Afterwards, I perform oral sex on her but she never gets an orgasm. She has started believing that she can’t ever get an orgasm. So in short we do ample of foreplay and have intercourse and end up feeling tired and frustrated. What’s wrong with us? We are thinking of skipping sex altogether thinking it’s a waste of time. Please advise us on what to do.It is not necessary that a couple must get an orgasm together during intercourse. Few couples are able to achieve that. Foreplay leading to pleasure or an orgasm is enjoyable and satisfying. Discuss your problem by visiting a sexpert.

We are a newly married couple and currently on honeymoon. Last night, we tried to have intercourse but failed to do so. I noted that my wife’s vaginal opening is small. I tried to insert two fingers but she experienced a lot of pain. Is the pain and small opening due to presence of hymen or otherwise? We intend to visit a gynaecologist after we come back but we don’t want our honeymoon to go waste.Buy a tube of Xylocaine gel 2% and ask her to apply in and around the opening of the vagina. Wait for 15 minutes and then you can insert your finger deep into the vagina. You can enjoy your honeymoon in many ways such as mutual masturbation, oral sex, having a bath together or massaging each other. I wish both of you had taken premarital counselling before going for your honeymoon.

My boyfriend and I haven’t had sex yet. We feel it’s good to do it after marriage. He fondles my breasts and vagina with clothes on. I’m worried if my breast size will increase because he presses them every time we meet?If pressing enlarged the breasts, half the women in the world would be very happy. Stick to the resolution of having sex after marriage.

My penis is very small. I mean, when its normal, it is long like a finger, but when erect it is almost like a banana. But my only a small portion of my foreskin can be pulled back when erect. I had sex with my girlfriend 10 times with no problem. But when I see porn movies, the man's penis seems to be very different. Sometimes I feel shy in front of my girlfriend. Please advise what I can do? Will I be able to be a father in the future?

Since your banana penis has succeeded in entering the vagina you should have no problem to become a father. Daily slip your foreskin back and forth till it can easily reach the base of the head (glans penis).

I am a 23-year-old girl and I’ve been single since birth. Some time ago, I tried masturbating by inserting a toothbrush inside my vagina, but it started bleeding. Has my hymenoplasty split? I have never tried it again. How should girls masturbate? Will it still pain me when I have sex for the first time after marriage?It is the hymen which may have split, the word you use is the repair of the hymen by operation. Girls usually masturbate by fantasising about somebody, stimulating the nipples and vagina. Do not insert your finger or an object. Pain is usually very bearable but depends on the person's sensitivity.

I am slightly hypertensive, plus a victim of depression due to the early demise of both of my parents. For over a year, my wife has been disappointed by my inability to perform and satisfy her. I want to take some medication with which I can sustain my erection and perform better. I am very fond of sex with my wife, but I am under tension as I was unable to perform on many occasions.Just a thought: memories make us who we are, but dreams make us who we will become. See that you exercise and remain physically fit. Increase foreplay (massage each other, take a bath together, indulge in oral sex, etc.) till your partner reaches orgasm. Then, after a few minutes, start intercourse. If you finish before her second orgasm, ask her to rub herself against her body or use your fingers to help her. Take one tablet of Vigomax Forte (Charak), twice a day, for one month.

I am 30 and wife is 28. We have been married for six months, but haven't had sex yet. Though we indulge in foreplay often and I find my wife participating as well, whenever we try intercourse, she involuntarily resists by exerting pressure via her legs. I have also tried using lubricants and easing her into it by using my fingers, but haven't been very successful as she starts complaining pain. She is scared of sex and gets stressed each time we try intercourse. Please help.Buy Xylocaine 2% gel and ask her to apply a small quantity around her vagina. Wait for 15 minutes and wipe it off. It'll not hurt her for at least an hour and a half. Then insert your finger to rupture her hymen. Slight bleeding may occur but it stops soon. Assume a comfortable position for intercourse.

I am 28 years old and got married recently. My problem is that I cannot sustain an erection for over 20 seconds. I developed this problem four years ago and consulted a urologist, who advised a battery of tests. However, everything came back normal, so the doctor said the reason could be psychological and prescribed Sildenafil 25mg. Now I get a strong erection only when I take the drug, but still ejaculate within a minute. As a result, my marriage is in shambles. I quit smoking a year ago, at the doctor’s advice. I used to have good sex at 22 with my previous girlfriend. What is wrong with me?Increase the foreplay until she gets an orgasm, and then start intercourse. Enter and rest the penis inside the vagina till you get better control, then start stroking. Better still is the woman-on-top position. To prolong the act, stop when you near the desire to ejaculate, wait for a few moments and start again. For some time, use a spray like Lovelong.

I am a 25-year-old married woman. My husband is 29. We have a six-month-old baby. Since the past two years of married life, I never understood pleasure. I usually like to run away when it comes to sex. It's irritating thing for me. Lat month, we had intercourse twice, for which my husband had to convince me a lot. He is fed up of my behaviour and is very upset with me. He is very loyal to me and we are in very good relation, but we do have a good sexual relationship. Please help or it will ruin my beautiful married life.Sometimes, after a baby a woman is put off from sex for a while. See your gynaecologist.  It is better to be diplomatic than to outright refuse. A man in heat when put off feels rejected or very angry, which could lead him to move away from you. He'll try getting his pleasures elsewhere. Do not bank on him being close to you. So I suggest, you seriously ask yourself the reason and correct it soon. In the meanwhile, do not refuse him his pleasure even till you can solve the problem. Pretend to enjoy the experience.