Questions 17

I have been married for two years and since then we have been having sex twice a week, trying to conceive. However, during ejaculation I don’t see the spurting action of seminal discharge and the fluid just flows over the tip of my penis. I have a feeling that the reason for not conceiving may be because the semen is not reaching the ovary. How can I increase the spurting action of semen? Also, the seminal fluid comes out of my wife’s vagina the following morning. Is there any way of retaining this inside her to have a baby soon?To correct your knowledge, only a tiny amount of semen proceeds into the uterus which contains millions of sperms. The sperms have tails, which make them move rapidly so just depositing it in the vagina is enough. Increase your intercourse to three times a week, from the eighth day of the period (count from the first day).

I am a 25-year-old woman and have been married for six months. We have sex every day but I like doing it in one position whereas my husband wants to try out new things. I love my husband but I don't see the newly-wed spark in me. Please advice.Why not?  To keep the flame burning, you must also think of new ways to keep up the interest. Ask yourself why you have this negative thinking.


I am a 25-year-old woman and have been married for six months. We have sex every day but I like doing it in one position whereas my husband wants to try out new things. I love my husband but I don't see the newly-wed spark in me. Please advice.Why not?  To keep the flame burning, you must also think of new ways to keep up the interest. Ask yourself why you have this negative thinking.

I am 26 years old. Whenever my wife and I engage in intercourse, I ejaculate within 15-20 minutes and the erection ends. I feel I am unable to satisfy my wife. Please suggest a lubricant or a method for last-longing erections.Considering the world average for timing during intercourse is two to seven minutes, you are doing very well. Increase the duration of your foreplay till she reaches her first orgasm, and then start intercourse. If you finish sooner than her second orgasm, ask her to stroke over your body or use your fingers to stimulate her vagina till she gets her second one.

I am 30 years old and my wife is 28. We have been married for six months but haven’t had sex yet. Though we indulge in foreplay often and I find my wife enjoying it as well, whenever we try to have intercourse, she involuntarily resists by exerting pressure with her legs. I have also tried using lubricants and easing her into it by using my fingers but haven’t been very successful as she starts complaining about the pain. She gets stressed out each time we try intercourse. Please help.
Buy Xylocaine 2% gel and ask her to apply a small quantity around her vagina. Wait for 15 minutes and wipe it off. It’ll not hurt her for at least an hour and a half. Then insert your finger to rupture her hymen. Slight bleeding may occur but it will stop soon. Assume a comfortable position for intercourse.

I am a 23-year-old woman. I had sex for the first time with my partner last week. It hurt a lot. I couldn’t allow him to penetrate fully but my hymen got ruptured. After that, I got so scared that I didn’t allow him to have sex with me any more. How can I get rid of this fear?The barrier has been ruptured. So now, you should not experience the pain you felt earlier. It is up to you to decide the way you wish to go about it.

I'm a 38-year-old man married for 11 years. I have an eight-year-old son. For the past 10 years, I have been using a condom while having sex. How can we enjoy sex without a condom but not risk pregnancy?Perhaps, your wife can consume a copper-T, an oral contraceptive pill. But if both of you still do not want any more children either of you could undergo permanent sterilisation.

I’m 29 years old. My foreskin slips back easily, but I read that male circumcision reduces a woman’s chances of getting cervical cancer. I am getting married, so I was considering it. But a friend says circumcision leads to drying up of the glands, reducing pleasure and leading to loss of sensation. Is this true? Is circumcision advisable if not required?If you clean your penis daily with soap and water after slipping back the foreskin, it is unlikely your partner or you will suffer from any problem. The sensation over the head does decrease after circumcision. Whether that delays ejaculation is a matter of conjecture.

I am 32 years old and have been married for nine months. I underwent a semen test and found that my total sperm count is 9.8 million sperms per ml. When I ejaculate it is 21.5 million. Is this  sufficient to conceive a child? If not, what can I do to increase the count?For better chances of conception, normal sperm count should be around 20 million sperms per ml with good motility. You should consult an andrologist to try and detect the reason for low sperm count and whether a corrective measure can be taken. Try two capsules of Addyzoa tablets (Charak) twice a day for at least three months.

I am 40 years old. My wife is 29 and we have one child. We have been married for eight years. But my wife has lost interest in sex. She refuses me and gets angry whenever I ask her for sex. I suggested she visit a sexologist but she doesn’t agree. I am frustrated and want to visit a sex worker. But I don’t have enough courage to do that. Can you suggest the reason for her behaviour? Secondly when I masturbate I experience pain in the upper area of my right leg. This has been happening for the past two years. I consulted my family and he told me not to masturbate. Please suggest a solution.
Try and get a close mutual friend to find out more about her behaviour. Look within and see whether there was some behaviour of yours that upset her. Think twice before visiting a sex worker. It’s not safe. It’s better to masturbate. See a urologist for pain in your upper right leg. There is no reason why you should experience pain after masturbation.